If you follow me on Twitter or have me circled on Google+, then you may already be aware of the following. However, I know some of Geeky Pleasures’ readers do neither and I’m also aware that things get missed. So please be patient as I talk, yet again, about my newest project: Nerd Love.
Nerd Love is a book that my partner Andrew and I started to write at the beginning of November last year. Originally, we decided to write it because 1) We wanted to work on something creative together; and 2) We noticed a lot of nerds did not love themselves for the wonderful creatures that they are and were having difficulties in some of their interpersonal relationships. Andrew and I are no strangers to either one of those things. We are also aware of our own personal sources of these issues and what we have done in order to overcome them in our own relationship. So we thought it would be a great idea to put what we’ve learned into a book, one that will help nerds learn to not only love themselves, but how to use the attributes that make them the fabulous nerds they are in all of their relationships, specifically romantic relationships.
Nerd Love will not be your typical “how to date” book. Oh no. We cannot have that nonsense. There will be a number of chapters. Each chapter will be divided into two parts: 1) The theory behind why a specific nerd trait makes you awesome and amazing; and 2) How to apply that attribute in your relationships. It may sound a wee bit technical, but trust me, it will be sure to give you a chuckle or two.
And that was the original idea. Then, once upon a time, Andrew did what I once thought would never happen. He joined me on my Geeky Pleasures Radio Show and we talked about sex! Yes, sex! It was a two hour discussion filled with talk about mutual masturbation, porn, bringing toys into the bedroom, roadblocks to discussing sex in relationships, attitudes and misconceptions about sex and a lot more. It was a lot of fun. It was also interesting to hear what others had to say regarding what we were discussing. In fact, we still want to hear what you have to say about what we discussed. So head on over to Nerd Love, listen to or download the podcast, then go back there and leave your comments! Anonymous comments are more than welcome! We understand that discussing sex, love and relationships in public can be difficult.
That is when the idea morphed into what it is today.
Andrew and I want to hear what you think about every thing we put into the book, as it is created. Not only do we want to hear what you have to think, but we want you to help us edit the book. As partial chapters are created, we will be posting them to the Nerd Love website where you get to edit any errors, suggest chapter expansions, or even suggest cuts. If we decide to use your suggestions, you will receive credit in the book as an editor. That is, of course, if you give us permission to name you.
Eventually, we will have an IndieGoGo campaign to fund publication of the Nerd Love book.
Aside from podcasts and chapters from the Nerd Love book, Andrew and I will post blogs about random, or maybe not-so-random, topics pertaining to sex, love and relationships. Not only will we be blogging, but we want to hear your own real-life nerd love stories! We will post them as blog posts. If you want to change the names of those involved, please do so! We just ask that you include in your e-mail that the names have been changed so we can be sure to also let the readers know. To share you nerd love stories, e-mail email@example.com.
But there is more! We really, truly want your feedback and ideas. We really, truly want to know what your ideas are regarding all things love, sex and relationships. We also want to provide a nerd safe community for people talk about these topics and ask any questions they may have. So, to accomplish this, we created Ask Nerd Love.
At Ask Nerd Love you are free to ask any questions you may have about love, sex and relationships. You are also free to answer any questions that others may ask. To ask a question, you need to create an account. That is just the nature of how the UI works. But have no fear. You do not need to use your real identity. You can create an account using any name you choose. To answer a question, it is as simple as leaving a comment just like you would on any blog post. Again, you are free to choose to not use your real identity.
Also, please keep in mind when answering a question, that we want to know what you think and feel, not what the society you live in thinks and feels. We’ve already had one instance where someone tried to use the forum to make a political statement and we let the comment through, with a response that it isn’t acceptable and isn’t helpful to the person who asked the question. In the future, political statements, derogatory comments, hate speech, etc., will be deleted from the comments. Nerd Love needs to be a safe place for people to engage others, free from judgement and criticism.
And, just like with the Nerd Love book edits, your questions and answers may be incorporated into the book. If we decide to incorporate what you have to say, you will receive credit with your permission.
There is another way that we ask for you to engage us. We ask that you follow us on Twitter @N3rdLove and that you circle us on Google+. Sometime in the future, we will ask that you contribute to our IndieGoGo campaign and to let others know about the fundraising campaign.
Finally, we ask that you help us spread the word. Tweet about Nerd Love. Blog about it. Share it on your various social networks. Without your engagement, this project will not become what we envision it to be.
Now, what are you waiting for? Engage!